My Ms. Foundation Blog Post About Workplace Discrimination

msfoundation logoThe Ms. Foundation for Women celebrated Women’s History Month by featuring blog posts submitted by women across the country including a post by yours truly!  My blog is about an incident of workplace discrimination that I encountered a number of years ago.  I hope to expand on this post in the future, as the Ms. Foundation posts were limited to 300 words, and I have more thoughts about this experience that I’d love to share.

The link to the post is here, and I’ve also pasted the content here:

“In 2001, I left my corporate job for a fantastic dot-com opportunity, doubling my salary and achieving a director title. I was co-leading a project with another male director, and our client was a music company with all male stakeholders. Continue reading


A 6-Year-Old Boy Finally Settles the Working Mom vs. SAHM Debate

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A couple of weeks ago my friend shared a picture that her 6-year-old son drew at school.  He was told to draw his mom doing something and then complete the sentences “Some mommies __________” and “My mommy ________.”  He drew a picture of her sitting at a computer, and underneath he filled in the words “Some mommies like to cook.  My mommy likes to work.”

As a fulltime working mom, my friend had a little bit of a panic.  Was she spending too much time at the office?  Was her child feeling neglected because she didn’t cook enough?  As she posted on Facebook, “I am trying not to take it as a sign of failure of proper prioritization.”  Who can blame her?  Whether at home or at the office, we parents are always worried that we are neglecting the other part of our – or our kids – lives. Continue reading

Men Doing Housework Will Not Save Working Women

domesticsLisa Belkin just posted a blog entitled: Women Can’t Lean in at Work Until Men Do at Home.  This is a topic I’ve been meaning to write about, and Belkin’s article gave me the motivation to do so.  My post below will make more sense if you read her article first.  However, the general concept is implied in her title…men need to do more of the domestics in order for women to get ahead in the workplace.

This concept has always bothered me.  I think it would be great for domestic work to be split 50-50, presuming that’s logistically possible for a working couple (i.e., my husband runs his own company and travels 50% of the time, so it’s not possible for us.)  However, the idea that men are the saviors of the work-life balance for women is misguided and dangerous because it sets up an unreasonable expectation that only leads to resentment and bitterness. Here’s why:

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Happy Valentine’s Day! From, Boy; Love, Girl

HeartsGrowing up, I was always taught to sign cards and letters “Love, Ashley.”  It didn’t matter who I was writing the letter to or why, that was the de facto signature.  At some point I think I noticed that girls tended to write “Love, Girl” and boys tended to write “From, Boy.”  But, being a kid, I didn’t give it much thought.

Now that I’m all grown up with my own boy and girl, I have noticed this trend continue, particularly on Valentine’s Day.  Most store-bought cards are pre-printed with a “From” line.  But for the few crazy (but wonderful) parents who still venture into having their kids make cards, the trend is still the same.  Most boys sign their cards “From” and most girls sign with “Love.”

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Who Can Alleviate Girls’ Math Anxiety? The Answer Might be Closer to Home Than You Think

Girl-doing-math-at-boardThere is much talk these days about how American kids are falling behind other kids around the world academically, particularly in the “STEM” subjects (science, technology, engineering and math).  These subjects are are incredibly important, as they lead to careers and innovations that will fuel the U.S. economy down the road and they are also among the highest paying careers.  And, girls are woefully underrepresented in these subjects.  For example, fewer than 20% of college engineering degrees go to women even though women earn nearly 60% of all Bachelors degrees.

That is why I was particularly interested in the TEDxWestVillageWomen talk by Laura Overdeck, founder of Bedtime MathContinue reading

Data, Not Anecdotes, Should Drive the Gun Reform Discussion

red-pen_data_with_graph_1I’m extremely grateful that the incident at Taft Union High School ended today with no lives lost.  The quick and astute reaction of the teacher and campus supervisor who convinced the gunman to surrender his weapon reflect true heroism.  We can also hypothesize that if the teacher or supervisor had been armed that the scenario may have played out differently, and the gunman might have lost his life.  The actual outcome, with all lives intact, is preferable.

Because of this, many journalists, bloggers, and tweeters are claiming that this incident “proves” that the NRA is wrong because the high school has an armed deputy on campus (although I have read that the deputy was not on the grounds at the time), and the NRA has claimed that having armed officers and teachers are the best way to prevent gunmen from entering a school.  While I am a gun control advocate and am against arming teachers, I don’t believe that anything has been proven by one incident. Continue reading

Where’s the Celebrity “Demand a Plan” to Stop Violence in the Entertainment Industry?

matt-damon-300x209I came across the original celebrity Demand a Plan video after signing the Demand a Plan petition.  I thought is was fine.  Pretty similar to most celebrity PSAs.  Kind of preachy.  Not particularly informative.  But as my views are generally liberal, as are most celebrities’ views, I agreed with them.  So I didn’t give it much thought.

Then came the parody of the Demand a Plan video. (The link is at the bottom of this post, in case you haven’t seen it.)  Wow.  I know that most movies are violent – in fact that’s a big reason that I don’t see a lot of movies.  I don’t like violence; I find it both distressing as well as boring and uncreative.  And I hate blood.  But, aside from my personal feelings, the parody video did an excellent job at pointing out exactly how egregiously hypocritical the celebs are.  And regardless of where someone falls on the spectrum of gun reform, the video-editor did a service by calling out the entertainment industry for the role they play in our violent culture. Continue reading